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MAYbe that's OK

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"Plastic dolls with blow-up knockers.

Here's the shocker.

Most breasts don't look like that.

Some are deflated, sucked flat from feeding babies.

And do you know what?

Maybe that's OK."

Wise words from Kate Tym in the Body Gossip story and film, "What are we protecting our children from?"

And it's inspired this month's Body Gossip debate!  This month, join in as Body Gossip ponders about the joy in saying

'MAYbe that's OK"!

Geddit??

So join in on Twitter and Facebook, as BodyGossipRuth, BodyGossipTash and BodyGossipSarah invite you to consider those parts of your appearance that, OK, you don't necessarily love.  But how great would it be to just

SHRUG

And say "MAYbe that's OK"!

And to inspire you, why don't you start reading this month's story written by Henrietta Nagy - a tall story by a tall lady who's definitely learnt that everything's more than OK!

Love n hugs,

Ruth x

Changing Faces are Changing Perceptions

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Last Thursday, the Government held the first ever Body Confidence Awards at the Houses of Parliament.  Presenting awards were the achingly stylish Caryn Franklin from All Walks Beyond the Catwalk, and Body Gossip's (OK, and CBeebies' too) very own Cerrie Burnell.

    

Shortlisted for awards were the gobsmackingly awesome Caitlin Moran, sexy mumma Davina McCall, the gorgeously wonderful Gok Wan - and Body Gossip.

Yes, little old Body Gossip. Which up until 2 weeks ago was run out of of BodyGossipRuth's living room, BodyGossipTash's Blackberry or BodyGossipSarah's table at Starbucks.

So we were really chuffed that we were nominated in TWO (yes TWO!) categories: the Campaign Category, and the Education category.

 

Natasha and I glammed up (I even wore heels.  I know, shocker), grabbed a free glass of wine (obvs) and nervously waited to see if we won.

We didn't. But do you know what, we aren't gutted.  And here's for the why:

1) We hung out with Cosmopolitan's Deputy Features Editor, Rosie Mullender, who is a first class legend and loves Body Gossip. Whoop whoop!

2) In the Education category, we were up against the wonderful Girl Guides, and Body Image in the Primary School. Both incredibly proactive and passionate organisations, and it was an honour for Gossip School to be shortlisted alongside them.  Well done Nicky Hutchinson and Chris Calland for winning!

3) The Campaign Category was presented by Susie Orbach (who we LOVE. Proper adoration), and her introduction of Body Gossip included the following accolades: "Body Gossip is ballsy, it breaks taboos, it says what needs to be said!". This, we feel, is award enough.

4) The Campaign Category was won by the amazing charity Changing Faces - and this brings me to the REAL reason for this blog. You have to check out what Changing Faces are doing. Because they are wonderful, and we were proud to lose to them!

So here's the point of this blog! Check out Changing Faces' new campaign and SIGN THEIR PETITION TO HIGHLIGHT PREJUDICE ON THE BIG SCREEN!

New film campaign highlights prejudice on the big screen

Changing Faces, the UK’s leading disfigurement charity, is launching the Face
Equality on Film campaign calling for balanced portrayals of people with
disfigurements in films.

More than a million cinema goers over the next two weeks will be invited to challenge
their assumptions about a character in a short film called ‘Leo’ starring actress,
Michelle Dockery, and Leo Gormley, a man with burn scars. The film will be shown in
750 Odeon cinemas nationwide.

A YouGov survey commissioned by the charity found that bad teeth, scars, burns
and other conditions affecting the face are viewed as the most common indicators of
an evil or villainous character in a film. Ethnic minorities, bald and disabled people
are all thought to be portrayed in more diverse ways than those with disfigurements.

James Partridge, CEO of Changing Faces, said: “We’re so used to seeing people
with disfigurements portrayed as the villain in films that it may be hard for people to
imagine they could ever play someone’s friend, the Dad picking up his kids from
school, the US President, or a lover.

“It would seem as if all the film industry has to do to depict evil and villainy is apply a
scar or a prosthetic eye socket or remove a limb and every movie goer knows that it’s
time to be suspicious, scared or repulsed.

“The problem is that, for those who actually do have facial scars or whose faces are
asymmetrical as a result of cancer, strokes or birth conditions, the way that people
react in the cinema can spill over into the way they are treated in everyday life. It can
encourage people to make moral judgements based on what they see on the screen.

“Freddie Krueger, Scarface and Two-Face are just some of the names that our
clients get called at school, on the street and at work. They have to put up with
people laughing at them, recoiling, running away or staring in disbelief that they can
and do live a normal life. Changing Faces hopes the film and campaign will
encourage audiences and the wider film industry to think about how disfigurement
can be portrayed in a more balanced way.”

Movie goers are asked to sign a petition calling for fair, truthful, everyday portrayals
and an end to the harmful stigma and prejudice currently seen on screen.
(www.facebook.com/ChangingFacesUK).

New Book: 'Hope with Eating Disorders'

We’re so proud of our friend Lynn Crilly here at Body Gossip. Tomorrow (Monday 2nd April) her book ‘Hope with Eating Disorders’ will hit the shelves.

The book is a guide for parents, friends, siblings, teachers and extended family – It’s for anyone who is worried about someone they love and thinks, or knows, that they have an eating disorder. It has a guide to a wide range of therapies, plus some really interesting chapters like “eating disorders and social networking” and “men get eating disorders too”.

Like Body Gossip, Lynn Crilly believes that body image issues are something which can affect ANYONE. We’re careful not to exclude anyone from the Body Gossip debate (because everyone has a body!) and we’re pleased to see that ‘Hope with Eating Disorders’ does the same – showing that eating disorders are not just the remit of teenage girls (although it talks about them too).
So often at Body Gossip we’re approached by people who are worried about a friend or family member and they ask us what they should do – Now we can advise them to get this book!
We’re also pleased that a donation from each book sold will be split between Body Gossip and Gossip School.

If you’d like to get your mitts on a copy of this book, you can order via Lynn’s website at http://www.lynncrilly.co.uk/MyBook/HopewithEatingDisorders.aspx

 

'Gossip School' Shortlisted for a Mental Healthy Award!

We’re a little bit too excited here at Body Gossip. We may require a little lie down and a cold beverage of some description. We’ve just found out that Gossip School, our education programme, has been shortlisted for a Mental Healthy Award. Woo! And may we also add – Hoo! (someone pass us a frappucino).
Gossip School has already won a ‘Future 100’ Award for Social Impact in November 2011. So we’re delighted to be recognised again. The Mental Healthy Awards are incredibly prestigious. They’re awarded by SANE, The Mental Health Association, the Centre for Mental Health and Emergence. Gossip School has been shortlisted in the ‘Business Hero’ category - And we’re pleased to see our friends, Men Get Eating Disorders Too, in the ‘Community Hero’ category. See the full shortlist here.
At Body Gossip, we believe it is every teenager's (and, indeed, every person’s) right to feel valued, appreciated and gorgeous, just the way they are. We also believe that self-esteem and body confidence are an essential foundation if young people are going to fulfil their true potential. Our motto is “think about your body initially more, ultimately less” and Gossip School gets students thinking about their bodies, confronting their issues and empowers them to go forth and be the best version of themselves.
Our one hour class allows students to really understand body image issues and how they’re about more than just looks, to question their negative beliefs about themselves and change their perspectives. We also look at potentially negative influences like airbrushing and certain aspects of the advertising industry, giving students the tools to see how and when they’re being manipulated into feeling inferior.
Our class has been raved about by everyone from the magnificent Jo Swinson, Chairman of the APPG on Body Image, to Mr Body Confidence himself Gok Wan, who described Gossip School as “exactly what the UK is crying out for!”.
To date, we’ve worked with almost 10,000 students of both genders aged 13-18 in schools, colleges and universities throughout the UK. Here is Founder Natasha Devon with some students in a North London school just this morning (on the right with the bright red hair).

 
But we want to get into more schools and colleges, and give our message to more young people so that they too can feel fantastic about themselves. So you. Yes, you reading this - click on the ‘Gossip School’ icon on the right (featuring the lovely Mikyla Dodd, also of the Red Hair Club) to find out more and find out how Gossip School can come to an educational establishment near you!

 

 

Susie Orbach and Ruth's #lovingmytum campaign

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I've just read Susie Orbach's speech she made at the UN Commission on the Status of Women.  Typically, it is searingly intelligent, passionate and informed.

Read Susie Orbach's speech here.  Want more? Read her Huffington Post review here.

She talks about how Western women are preyed upon by the very beauty industries they so worship.

I may be doing something quite silly - photographing my tummy for Twitter in an attempt to love its natural shape. 

But I read Susie's speech, and I realise that I'm doing something bigger than that - I'm defying the pressures to conform to an image of 'perfection' that is coming at me from all angles.  I'm saying 'No, this is my natural shape, I'm proud of it' - it feels great, it really does, and when I realised I'm joining Susie Orbach in her values, that made it feel even better.

I urge you to give it a go - join the #BodyGossipCyberMarch - love the bits that make you unique.  Refuse to conform.

Love, Ruth

Body Gossip Cyber March: banishing body shame!

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Every month on Facebook and Twitter, Body Gossip hosts a themed discussion.

This month, it being March, we're hosting a Cyber March - a protest if you will, a demonstration, a riot! (No no, that's going a bit far maybe...!)

A Cyber March against Body Shame.  Because we've all got a part of our body that we don't like, don't we? What's yours?

Mine is my tummy.  I've never liked it.  I can't pinpoint exactly what it is, but there are various reasons mainly involving the fact that my boobs stick out more than it, it's incredibly pale, and because I do love a beer and a curry, there's a pot belly there which, I'll admit, I spend an awfully long time every day sucking in.

Sound familiar?  Because I reckon I'm not the only one who doesn't have a 'perfect' tummy - in fact, I reckon our very concept of the 'perfect' tummy is completely warped.  When I think of a 'perfect' tummy, I think of this:

In fact, the website I pinched this image from even states the following: (NB do you have something soft to punch, like a pillow, because you're gonna need it after this)

"Stand erect and pinch the roll of skin under your belly button.  If your weight is normal, this roll will be very small. If you are carrying a little extra weight on your tummy, the roll of flesh will be bigger.  If you can pinch half an inch, you need to get rid of the roll by regular exercise. You will have to implement an emergency plan which comprises exercise, diet and anti-stress therapy."

Well, I need some anti-stress therapy just reading that!  WTF, there is so much that annoys me about that sentence. 

1) "If your weight is normal" - I believe that if you exercise in moderation and eat a healthy, balanced diet (with some treats thrown in!), look at yourself in the mirror and that is your NORMAL weight.  We are all unique, and what's normal for one person, is very different to the next.

2) "If you can pinch half an inch, you need to get rid of the roll" - as if the roll is evil, the devil incarnate in fact, good god how horrendous that you have fat on your body, who would have thought that we actually need 20% - 35% of body fat to SURVIVE! Plus, as I sit here, I can pinch a good 2 inches.  So there!

3) "You will have to implement an EMERGENCY PLAN" - good grief.  As if we have the time and inclination to consider an extra inch on our tummies to be an emergency, worthy of an emergency plan, no doubt costing a fair penny - and I bet that any results would be shortlasting anyway, going back to my first point: we all have a natural, healthy body shape.  Not everyone's body frame and metabolism can support a tummy like the one above.

Plus, I bet that picture is totally airbrushed. And I bet that poor girl hasn't enjoyed a sticky toffee pudding for years.  Or a cheese board.

SO! Armed with my determination to love my tummy - my normal, slightly squidgy but delightfully REAL tummy - I have pledged to take a picture of it every day this month, and post it on Twitter!

The first picture I took, was hard, I'm not going to lie.  It felt very exposing, publicly displaying something that I'm nervous of revealing even to those closest to me.  But, here's the picture:

And after that it became SO much easier! 

Now, reading this, aren't you a little bit tempted to take a picture of your tummy and post it on Twitter???

I BET YOU ARE! SO DO IT!

Tag it with #lovingmytum and #bodygossipcybermarch and JOIN THE REVOLUTION - Hello to diverse, real and yummy tummys, and GOODBYE BODY SHAME!

Love, Ruth x

@BodyGossipRuth
@_BodyGossip

Our Day with Gok Wan

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In April last year, Ruth rang me squealing in a most un-Ruth like manner (she is usually, irritatingly, the epitome of cool).

“We just had a call from Maverick TV! Gok Wan. GOK WAN wants to work with us!!” she said.

“What, THE Gok Wan?” I replied, rather stupidly (I am bereft entirely of anything approaching Ruth’s coolness).

Of course, it was THE Gok Wan, as opposed to the veritable hoards of his fellow British celebrities who share his name.

And so, the day of filming approached. The arrangement was that Maverick would gate-crash a Body Gossip film shoot. Hence, when Gok made his entrance the only people who didn’t get to fling themselves on him in star-struck delight were Ruth and I, who were trapped filming in a room hotter than the surface of the Sun. (Tip: When arranging a film shoot during an unseasonably hot Spring, in a noisy urban side street (meaning windows cannot be opened) ensure the venue has air conditioning.)

Lynsey Tash, our inhumanly capable right hand-gal and Organiser Extrodinaire burst into the sauna-cum- studio. “GOK IS HERE!” she exclaimed, breathlessly. Ruth and I suddenly took on the demeanour of startled meerkats. “But it’s ok. He’s happily chatting to everyone and playing with Danielle’s camera”.

“Oh” we thought. Somehow, we’d imagined Gok might swoop in wearing a cloak-like pashmina and oversized sunnies, demand a room temperature cappuccino with extra foam and sit sullenly and impatiently in the corner until filming commenced. Yes, we knew that on screen he is charismatic, funny, caring and animated, but, we reasoned, surely no one has enough reserves of energy to be like that all the time?

Turns out, the Gok you see is the Gok we got. Which happily confirms that the entire female population of Britain are completely correct in their unwavering loyalty to him. When I shook hands with Gok the first thing he said to me was “Wow! Aren’t you tall? I’m not used to not being the tallest person in the room” at which stage Ruth pointed out that I was wearing utterly ridiculous shoes (as per usual) and he said “power heels! Why not?”.

Gok Wan, Natalie Cassidy, Cerrie Burnell and Zaraah Abrahams filming for Body Gossip in 'Gok's Teens: The Naked Truth'

The entire experience was reminiscent of those situations where you meet someone you really like in a bar, get a bit squiffy and proceed to compliment each other incessantly to convey the part-genuine, part-wine-induced feelings of love growing strong in your bosom. Accept there was no alcohol involved (thank goodness, or I may have humped his leg).

Of course, in my previous incarnations as a model and musician, I met my fair share of ‘slebs’. I’d adopted a rule: The less famous the celebrity, the more likely they are to be a knob-head. Which Gok, as someone who cannot walk down the street without being harassed by scores of screeching girls in a way that immediately conjures the word ‘Beatlemania’ , totally bore out (totes famous, not a trace of knobheaddery).

Gok Wan with Body Gossip cast member Nikki Grahame


A couple of days later, Ruth and I met Gok outside Parliament as part of an elite, ninja* team of body confidence experts who would help him teach the country’s largest ever body confidence lesson. (*note, none of us, to my knowledge, were actual ninjas. It just seemed like an appropriate sort of word).

Natasha and Ruth outside Parliament while filming 'Gok's Teens: The Naked Truth' for C4

Gok came bounding up to where Ruth was trying to coax me across some cobbles (I was wearing stupid shoes. Again) and greeted us like old friends. Which I suppose we were, if one defines ‘old friends’ as ‘people who have spent a day sweating profusely on one another’. It was only as we were debating that eternal conundrum - ‘does David Bowie have some sort of sock/codpiece stuffed down his leggings in the film Labrynth?’ - that we realised there was a camera about 3 inches away from our respective faces. Only Bowie knows whatever happened to that footage.

Ruth, Gok and Natasha in Parliament as part of 'Gok's Teens: The Naked Truth' for C4

Over lunch in the canteen, I had a sudden realisation. I have a crush on Gok Wan. Which is, of course, totally inappropriate considering the professional nature of our relationship and the fact that I have one too many X chromosomes to be his type. Up close, Gok is beautiful. He has eyes which make your soul melt like brie in a microwave and a flawless, caramel complexion which makes you want to lick his face.

“Erm, are you alright, Natasha?” he asked. I realised I was actually staring at him. Mouth slightly ajar, head cocked to one side, chin on palm – Which is what I do when I love someone a little bit. “Yes, yes fine” I replied silently adding “PLEASE DECIDE YOU’RE NOT GAY AFTER ALL AND WANT TO MAKE ME YOUR WIFE!”.

I’m sure I’m not the first girl whose heart and loins have been touched (metaphorically, not literally. This isn’t a kiss and tell) by the fabulous Gok.

Gok Wan, Zaraah Abrahams, Nikki Grahame, Brianna, Natalie Cassidy and Cerrie Burnell

What I can categorically say is this: My suspicions that the slightly snooty young man I met in a North London pub about a year ago was a liar and a bit of an idiot when he proclaimed that he had “worked with Gok” and that “he was a NIGHTMARE”, were totally founded.

Gok is as sparkly, starry, glittery and exuberant as you’d expect. He is also humble, self-effacing and exudes genuine warmth. To see footage of Ruth and I being seduced by his loveliness, tune into Gok’s Teens: The Naked Truth – Tuesday 7th Feb, 8pm, channel 4.

Love, Natasha x

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Ditching Dieting and Marching to Parliament

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Team Body Gossip was in full-force today as we marched to Parliament to protest against the Diet Industry.

@BodyGossipBoy, @BodyGossipTash, @BodyGossipSarah & @Nickinoxford

Alas, I could only be there for the beginning bit as I had to work, but I was really excited to see Susie Orbach and Sharon Haywood from AnyBody, Susan Ringwood and Leila from Beat, Duncan Stephenson from YMCA and Audrey Boss from Beyond Chocolate.

After the march there was a Parliamentary debate about regulating the diet industry, and as Natasha told me later, Susie Orbach was characteristically marvellous in her arguments against an industry that exists only to take our money by making us feel terrible about ourselves.

To find out more about AnyBody and their campaign, click here.

And well done Team Body Gossip for such an awesome presence at this wonderful event! (And for Ruth for taking the brilliant photos! Different Ruth, not me!)

Ruth x

 

Marching against Dieting

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Body Gossip is proud to stand alongside some incredibly powerful body image campaigners, such as Susie Orbach, Sharon Haywood, Jo Swinson and Lynne Featherstone.  Today, we will literally be alongside them as we march to Parliament in protest of the Diet Industry.

Body Gossip believes that with a healthy diet (with a few treats thrown in!) and a moderate exercise plan, we should be permitted to love, celebrate and be proud of our natural body shape.

The diet industry exists solely to take our money by preying on our insecurities - making us believe that beauty is always another smaller dress-size away.

It should not be like this - which is BodyGossipTash and BodyGossipSarah will be marching to Parliament today with this huge banner!

Look out for them, and show your support with a huge whoop if you see them!

And join Any-Body's Anti-Diet campaign by clicking here.

Ruth x

Nick and Sarah's Body Image Advent Challenge!

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Ho, Ho, Ho and all that.

So, Body Gossip is incredibly lucky to work with two super people. They are Body Gossip's very own Sarah Fullager (@BodyGossipSarah) and Nick Watts from the charity Men Get Eating Disorders Too (@Nickinoxford @MGEDT)

 

As well as being heroes, they're also the type of people who must freeze time, and when time is frozen for the rest of us, they set about being mega productive.  I developed this theory while at high school with Body Gossip's Natasha Devon (@BodyGossipTash) - she also has that ability to achieve in one day what would take me a month. No joke.

Anyway, I digress. It's becoming more and more of a habit of mine recently. Must be getting old, eeeeek.

This Advent, while we're opening cardboard windows hiding plastic chocolate and panic-buying on Amazon, Nick and Sarah are going to be running around their various locales (Bristol and Oxford, and London when we lure them here) getting YOU to share your views on body image topics.

They have 23 topics, with a new topic every single day until 23rd December.  Then on Christmas Eve, Nick and Sarah will post their own film with their thoughts on the challenge.

I URGE YOU TO GET INVOLVED!

But how, I hear you wonder.

Here's how:

1) Check out Nick and Sarah's Body Image Advent Challenge website.

2) Look at the topics listed there. Do you have something to say about them? (Errrrrrr, of course you do, that's why you love Body Gossip )

3) Make your own video blog and upload it to YouTube and tag Body Image Advent, or email us the link: info@bodygossip.org

4) Then, PLEASE DONATE TO THE CAMPAIGNS! Because both MGEDT and Body Gossip are doing brilliant work making sure that body confidence is increasing all over the UK.

5) Tweet, facebook and blog about our progress - and if you're a TV person, invite us on your chat show so we can talk LOADS about it!

Merry Advent everyone, and GO GO GO, GET GOSSIPING!

Ruth x